Will Making More Money Change Who You Are? How to Stop Repelling and Start Attracting More Money
I get this question all the time: “What if I become a different person when I make more money? What If I become mean, or selfish? Money seems to change people for the worse.” Do you share these thoughts (perhaps deep down inside)?
Did you grow up in a household where money was looked down-upon?
Think hard about this, and be honest with yourself. Because as I always say, “money loves to be understood.” The more you understand your own beliefs around money, the faster you’ll heal them – and the faster money will start to pour in your way.
OK, so let’s work this out rationally.
Here’s the belief: If you have more money, then you’ll start to become greedy, selfish or immoral in some way.
Here’s the explanation:
Here’s what starts to happen, the more money you make, the more team and support services you need to maintain your income and keep growing it (this is true for most business models, but not all). This is how businesses go from one person to six people to 20 people to 2,000 people and so on. As your expenses grow you make more and more decisions every single day about how to spend the money that is coming in.
Let’s say you are a Chinese restaurant and you buy chopsticks every week for five cents a chopstick. One day another supplier offers to sell the chopsticks for one cent each. You, as a business owner know in your mind that something has to be fishy about the price of chopsticks going down by four cents. There is a little voice in your head that says, “hmmmm…I should check into this.”
And here is where the choice comes in. You can either look into the state of the company that is selling chopsticks for one cent, or you can ignore it. The company could be using ten-year old children to make the chopsticks, or it could have just bought a machine that improves efficiency.
If you decide to ignore looking into the company, and instead just accept that your expenses will now decrease – here is where the problem begins.
It all starts with ignoring your values and beginning to make decisions based solely on dollars and your bottom line.
In the services industry, I see this happening when coaches start poaching other coach’s clients. I see it when business owners start making promises about results that they can’t create. I also see it when entrepreneurs begin to falsify details about their lives or their processes to make themselves look better, bigger, and wealthier.
Those who are making these choices are prioritizing money over their own values and integrity.
But the point here is that NONE of this has anything to do with money. It has to do with making decisions. As long as you continue to make choices that are in alignment with your inside voice and your own values – money will just make you stronger.
The money will only add to your ability to make massive change in the world because it gives you access to opportunities that you couldn’t have otherwise. You can travel more, hire more support, create more – and make the change in the world that you are here to make.
So don’t hide from the money. Embrace it. And know that as long as you remain aligned with yourself – the money will help you turn you personal and professional dreams into an awesome reality.
Don’t forget to learn more about money beliefs at the Breakthrough Event on November 12th – to learn more, click here.
