Opening Up to Support With the Empress of the Tarot
So many of us feel like we have to do everything – and do it by ourselves – especially after the pressure of this past year.
On a call just last week, my client Ruma told me, “I just feel like I can’t do it all. I’ve got my youngest child’s birthday party. My second daughter has two tutoring lessons. And I still want to spend some time catching up on work that I didn’t get done this week.”
“I don’t know how to do it all,” she said. “I can’t.”
When I asked her if she could get some support, she replied, “I don’t know – I’m a single mom. I don’t really have anyone around to help.”
I paused for a moment. Then, I asked, “When you think of your mom and how she took care of you and your siblings, how did she ask for help?”
Ruma answered immediately – “She didn’t. We were everything to her and she just did everything she could to help us. She didn’t have her own life, her own desires. All of her energy went to us.”
“And how did that work out for her?” I asked.
“She died early of an auto-immune disease and chronic exhaustion,” Ruma said quietly. “I don’t want to follow in her footsteps.”
So many of us can relate to this. When we look to the women who raised us, we find that there were no boundaries. There was no asking for help.
Whether we realize it or not, we spent so long learning from their example that we end up putting this pressure on ourselves to do everything on our own.
So I said to Ruma, “We need a new model to follow – someone else to anchor us into a different way of being. Let’s look at the Empress in the Tarot deck.”
The Empress wears a flowing gown and sits on a beautiful throne, surrounded by a garden of lovely plants.
She reigns over her kingdom with love. She has cultivated a life of luxury and abundance for herself, but she also knows how to nurture and protect the people she cares about.
The Empress knows that, in order to be a great leader, she must be able to receive support. She must be open to receiving – receiving love, receiving wisdom and, most importantly, receiving help.
For her to take care of others, she must unabashedly receive the support that she needs in order to take care of herself.
After my call with Ruma, she immediately began to embody the Empress.
She invited the mothers of her daughter’s friends to come and help with the birthday party. They had their own pizza and lots of laughs, and managed to wrangle twelve seven-year-olds together.
She called me the next week and sounded so excited. “I’m embodying the Empress!” she said. “I pulled the Tarot card and put it on my nightstand so I can see it each night.”
This week, I want to invite you to open the floodgates and allow others to buoy you up – so that you can manage your kingdom more effectively.
Ask yourself – how can I stand in my power more by asking for help? How can I open my mind and heart to receiving that help? How can I embody and be the Empress of my kingdom?
Tarot Archetypes like the Empress have become a huge part of my own life and my teachings to private clients over the years.
If you’d like to delve deeper into how to use the Tarot to cultivate more success in your business, check out our brand-new workshop coming up on August 19.
It’s called The Tarot Workshop for Entrepreneurs: How to Use the Archetypes of the Tarot to Trust Your Inner Voice, Make Better Decisions, & Grow Your Business Faster. You can check it out at www.TarotWorkshopforEntrepreneurs.com.
Until next week, remember: support and love are mutual. Every Empress needs her court.
